Monday, April 28, 2008

Post #200: Transracial Adoption

There are two main schools of thought on the idea of transracial adoption, one reliving that it is good and the other believing that it is bad. Some believe that adoption is adoption and that any steady and good home is profitable for the child over no home at all. These people, like Elizabeth Bartholet, believe that the well being of children is more important than outside factors like their culture or heritage, that life is more important if healthy and well than the specifics of what it means to be “well”.

Others, like Dorothy Roberts, believe that transracial adoption can be a “tool of oppression” for racial minorities by which the child is stripped of their natural heritage and supplemented with that heritage of the, likely, majority, thus assimilating the minority further into the majority identity. She believes that this forced assimilation robs children of their identity and culture and should be abandoned at all costs. She seems to say that in the grand scheme of things, it is better for society if children grew up in their own culture and not be placed in stable homes rather than risk losing their cultural heritage.

When I look at transracial adoption, I tend to see the trees for the forest and not the forest for the trees. I believe that we should forsake no child of well being or health simply to preserve the idea of culture. As George Bernard Shaw once said, “Nationalism is the idea that one's country is better than all others simply because you were born in it.” In that way, I argue against people like Dorothy Roberts who is simply looking out for her own needs masked as her culture's needs – because in reality the need for culture is personal and not general – and not the needs of others.

What Roberts claims she does so to preserve her own belief that the world is a fair and perfect place. If the world had been ideal, then these children would still have parents. The fact is that they do not. And, that they do need parents. And, that there are plenty of good parents out there. And, that the well being of the child should be paramount. I would rather see one lose heritage, something that is inherited not inherent in exchange for a good education and good health or a family who loves and cares for them. The idea that they can wait around for another parent to show up of their own race is by definition – preferring one race over another – racism.

Whoever Roberts and others claim to be, is beyond me. They are certainly not looking out for the child. If a child is placed in a home where they “lose” their heritage as they see it but gain a loving family that will help them and guide them in life, so be it. The future of the child is more important than the events and histories of the people who came before them. Do not get me wrong, they should learn about where they came from, but their lack of parents is the cruel price paid by them after their birth, unfair as it is but nevertheless true, and the result of that injustice is a loss of where they came from. Likewise, it does not have to be a loss of where they are going. Just because they lost parents does not require them to mortgage their future to follow some idealistic view of what family should be. In this regard, those who argue against transracial adoption are no better than those who argue against same-sex adoption or interracial marriage or same-sex marriage or any other method that creates a so-called “different” family structure than the one the western world seems so bent on keeping intact.

Friday, April 18, 2008

Life

Come my friend,

Play,

You'll see,

a greater light,

shining from within,

than the greatest light externally

Monday, April 14, 2008

Proof that Liberalism Wins Out

I got to thinking today, and I now have reason to believe that not only in the end to liberals win out, but that they also acquire a time machine and pass on fun little clues to the rest of us...

What you say? No proof? Judge for yourself...

1. The Republican color is ("commie") red.
2. A Republican was in office at the beginning of Vietnam.
3. Spiro Agnew.
4. Every inteligent person once asked if Reagan had lost his mind during the Iran Contra Scandal. It was later revealed that he actually may have.
5. Strom Thurmond was a Democrat.
6. "I am not gay. I have never been gay..."
7. The Nixon's tapes.
8. "It's 3:00AM..."
9. Joe LIEberman
10. Mark Foley

and so on... and so forth...

Welfare Reform and Pro-Marriage Initiatives

This nation has a problem. Yes, poverty is a problem too, but that is not what I mean. Our problem as a nation is that we continuously treat the symptoms and not the disease. The disease, as it so commonly is, is discrimination. Women are paid less than men on average, even today. Women receive full custody of their children far more often than men do as well as the economic burden that stems forth from having extra mouths to feed and a lower paying job to boot. This is the problem. Welfare reform and pro-marriage initiatives were bastardized solutions set forth not only to try to fix these symptoms, but also to ignore the real problem.

Welfare reform provides sustainability for families for five years and only five years. After that, they are on their own. If we really, as a nation, wanted to reform welfare, it would have been done differently. Instead of focusing on a “pull yourselves up by your bootstraps” Hoovierian method (some good that did with the Depression), we must focus on public assistance. People do not want to be poor. They do not want bad jobs for low pay. They do not want to starve. They do not want to lack health care. They do not want their children to continue on this path indefinitely. They want the opposite. The problem is that they do not know how to do it. Teach them how to do it. Teach them how to get a good job or better pay. Teach them a trade or a skill. Teach them about education options for their children. Teach them about the services, even those already available, that exist to help them under the new system. Give them a hand up not a hand out.

Likewise, pro-marriage initiatives are another basically conservative idea. It is a prop for the conservative family values agenda, which I am more than happy to say is failing miserably. Why is it failing? Because it cannot work. Logically, it should not work. The idea behind the theory is that if you give women (primarily) the economic incentive to get married they will and in this family, they will have two incomes, therefore they will be able to pull themselves out of poverty. This is pure fantasy. There are hundreds of thousands if not millions of people who are in two parent families who are still below the poverty line. And more so, this does not solve the problem. They still do not have good jobs, still do not have the know-how to get their children out of the cyclical poverty system in this nation, still do not have the ability or the freedom to live the way they want or do what they want with their lives.

In the end, pro-marriage initiatives and welfare reform were victories for the conservative demagogues in this nation. They put up a front making it appear as if they care about families, making it look as if they care about children, making it look as if they give a damn about whether John and Jane Doe are actually out of poverty or still members of a subservient lower class whose labor, up until recently drove this nation's industrial and agrarian economies and still drives this nation's service economy. They did not fix the problem. They fixed the symptoms. If you treat the symptoms of cancer, you are still going to die. It is as simple as that. Conservative politicians made it appear as if they were doing something, when in fact they were simply ensuring that they continued to have a class of cheap labor and a government of non-action and non-assistance just so that they could continue to pad their overly and overtly cushy bottom line. It was not reform it was regression.