Let's talk about sex for a minute. What the hell is so wrong about sex? You wouldn't be here if not for sex. Your parents have had, will have, may right now be having sex, so have your grandparents and their parents before them. Back and back, to the beginning of time, we have all had sex. And, I'm all for sex. But some people believe that sex for reasons other than children is wrong, that it is immoral or against God's plan. Retracting... Some people believe that premarital sex is wrong, that it is immoral, against God's plan. Or that homosexual sex is immoral, blasphemous. There are people who believe that the world is too loose with sex today. There are people who believe that the world isn't loose enough with sex today. There are people who don't know what to think about sex. There are people who've never had sex and who's sole purpose for dating is to have sex. There are people who have had sex, many a time frequently, and want to have more. There are people who've had sex once or twice, or a hundred times who don't want to have sex again.
In short, there are a lot of opinions about sex and a lot of reasons why people say what they say and believe what they believe about sex. As a person, I cannot describe sex without my own personal biases, for if I could described another's view adequately, then it would have to be my view in the first place. Not only with sex, but with most if not all issues that we debate today, one only knows best their own views. That said, I can only give my own views. And here they are:
Sex is a completely natural and extremely expressive act. It is a way in which to experience with someone else something which cannot be fully achieved or appreciated alone.
There are two types of sex: sex for pleasure and sex for emotional attachment.
Sex for pleasure foregoes a bond between any two specific people. Partners become just a vessel for achieving a high watermark, the fulfillment of potential sexual pleasure. Most of the time these people don't have emotional attachment to one another and many times don't ever have sex again. Case and point, the one-night-stand or "hooking up" at a party, bar, or like establishment. It is done for pleasure not emotional fulfillment.
Sex for emotional attachment is sex for the purpose of "becoming one" with the one you love. In short, this type of sex is "relationship sex." Some believe that this is the most fulfilling type of sex, that it is sex that bonds two persons on a level beyond that of the physical world. Of course, this holds true for those searching for a bond beyond the physical world. One looking for pleasure would likewise say that their version is just as fulfilling, if not more.
Of course, there is debate on what types of sex are natural or unnatural, against God's will. Sex is defined as penetration of a sex organ into something else on another's body. Of course this sex organ could be a strap-on and the something else could be any number of places (typically, oral, anal, and vaginal) on a subject of either gender. Aside from definitions, we as a society decide which types are acceptable and which are not. I have my opinion and you have yours and there's nothing wrong with having opinions (in my opinion) just so long as one's opinions does not hurt others or oneself. I believe that there is nothing wrong with any type of sexual activity, that all have their merits and drawbacks and all have their dangers. When done carefully, all sex acts can be both a pleasurable and emotionally bonding experience.
There are those who believe that there are some types of sex that are wrong, immoral, or against God's will. Primarily I have to say that if God truly didn't want something to happen, He/She/It/Etc. could have and would have stopped it a long time ago. If God is perfect then God does not make mistakes, does not have accidents. Therefore, I believe that God has no problem with any kinds of sex involving consenting and understanding participants. Personally, I think that the whole world would be better if we all had more protected sex. But that's just me.
As to the claim that sex can be wrong or immoral, I'm certain that if God in God's infinite wisdom does not find it immoral, then we as imperfect people should strive for the same.
I believe that sex is fun. It is a way to live and to express yourself, that we should not limit consenting and understanding participants from engaging in any type of sex that they prefer. Personally, being straight, I find certain types of sex more appealing than others, both on a physical and emotional level, but I don't see why anyone should be allowed to tell people what they should be attracted too. Of course, that is just my opinion.
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